Compartmentalizing friends

If the title makes you uncomfortable so far, don’t worry, it makes me too.

But really it should be thoughtful. The average person, really everyone, has friends. It’d be hard for me to believe than any one person did not, in fact, have friends. And that the friends would also be, even if very similar to the person or to one another, still very different. There has to be some kind of variety, no matter the closeness of them to the person (i.g acquaintance, friend, best friend). All our friends are different, and although I don’t like using the word “use” and apply it to a person, we use our friends for different things; we have friends for different purposes. Because they themselves are different, we are constantly evolving too, and discovering new sides of us; our friends can also change us and make us discover new sides of ourselves, or bring out different sides we didn’t know existed.

Because we like a variety of things, and our friends are people too who are different from our other friends, we match on different things with each person. Things such as humor, beliefs, interests, hobbies.

Sometimes it’s quite remarkable how many things you can match on with a person. But obviously, no one is exactly like you for a reason, too. It’s just amazing how you can be so similar and yet different at the same time. Both similarities, and differences, make you and your bond stronger.

The people you go on hikes with, the people you go to the mall with, the people you go to bookstores or vinyl shops with, the people you go to cafés with, and the people you write novels with, are probably not all the same person. If it can be, that’s really cool too.

Back on the point of how we’re always evolving and changing in ways we might not expect or see coming…I used to be so against sororities because I thought they wouldn’t be my vibe. And that may…very well still be right. I might be underestimating. But lately something about them I crave. A big group of girls I’d know and could be friends with. It’d be like my “fun” crowd. Just fun crowd. Maybe not the people I’d go to libraries to do homework with. There’s just certain things that one of your friends could understand that another one wouldn’t.