Dating

I don't know if I'll ever have the guts to publish this, but who knows, because I've had the guts to publish a lot of things, and perhaps it just takes a certain amount of right time.

I feel like I've learned a lot about dating, I don't know if I'm a pro yet, by any means, but I've been forced to learn a lot in a short amount of time. In my thirst of knowledge, I'd hope I would have come to realize some important conclusions.

I don't know yet what I'm going to write, just that I want to start compiling my different thoughts and ideas about this topic. I don't know yet if it will be super subjective, personal as in, pertaining to me, or some general truths about dating (granted from my perspective).

And I think this will be the type of blog post I start writing perhaps months or years before I publish this, so who knows, it might be really long, as I just keep adding to it, but I hope it will be a good compilation of ideas, a work I spent time on. Partially because I'm scared to publish and partially because I feel, with time, I will learn and add a lot more, and it will be a lot better (even though I do reread, edit, add, and update my own blog posts sometimes, in any case).

Let's get to it. (I hope the conclusions I've drawn from my experiences aren't too drastic).

1. A general truth about dating?: I think, for one, when someone asks you out, or before they ask you out, if you can't even imagine yourself holding their hand, or kissing them, that you shouldn't even go any further than that.

   1. I don't feel like I knew this before, and it caused me to go a lot further into things than I realized necessary.

   2. Even if you believe yourself to not be a physically affectionate person, as I thought myself to be, even so, if the thought disgusts you, nope...and that brings me to my next point...

2. Physical attraction is vital. I used to think, for some (nice) (girls) at least... that they could like guys who they weren't physically attracted to. I don't think this is possible anymore, due to the first point. I don't know what shallowness has swallowed the world, but even if it's the greatest guy on the planet with the greatest personality...how are things going to go farther or ever be romantic...?

3. Because if it was the right person, the thought of holding their hand and kissing them should not disgust you??? On the contrary, you should want to hold their hand, you should want to hug them...etc.

4. Because truthfully thinking about it from a logical perspective, I think we as humans all have to have the capability of being physically attracted to each other...otherwise we would not all be here. And so if you "think" you're not a physically affectionate person, no you are, you just haven't found the right person yet.

5. You should want to talk to them...not be nonchalant...but chalant...

6. If little things they do annoy you...red flag.

7. If the things that they do that remind you of you and so you feel like you should relate but instead they annoy you?...red flag.

8. I think maybe that so often we "want" some person that we don't have or can't have is because this not having is causing us to feel competitive and sad like maybe, "this person was meant for me?" when in reality...how many times can you think of a movie or book that had this plot...and then this exact thing plays out:

   1. They can't have each other for whatever reason (one of them is married, is dating someone, unprofessional/inappropriate/society/socially unaccpetable)

   2. They find a way though, and get together. And then...

   3. IT DOESN'T WORK OUT.

   4. There's issues, they're fighting, it's not working, they realize they're not right for each other...

   5. I think our brain tries to trick us sometimes into trying to like/imagine ourselves with just about everyone, and we're intrigued by the ideas of people we know we can't morally/for whatever reason have. But in reality, we need to wake up. So many things go into the idea of someone ACTUALLY working for us. It's really complicated. At least in these modern times, when the goal is to find true love and not withstand misery; not just mindlessly step through an arranged marriage.