How are you?

🤠?

Do you hate this question?

I feel as if there's such a weird stigma surrounding this question, but for good reason. There's a weird unspoken tension. Except I'm about to speak about it right now.

How are you?

How deep does this question ask, how deep does it inherently go? Is that why we hate it?

How are you?

Sir? Do I actually owe it to you, to explain anything to you?

I think maybe this question can be disliked because 1.) if it's inherently deep, we don't want to lie, but 2.) at the same time we are resentful of having been asked this question, having been put into this situation, and knowing what to do next.

It's so casual, yet is asking for so much? Ironic, and aggravating.

Like read the situation sir, when we are stopping to get our mail from our mailboxes, are we going to drop everything to share our life stories? (made-up scenario).

I know it's not actually that deep. The question is probably more-so something like, "how's life, in general, in simple, short words, currently?"

What is good? Completely subjective. Are we ever completely good? In a way yes, in a way no? Depends on the person.

What is okay? What is fine? I know guys think they've got girls all figured out, but I beg to differ. "Fine," is not "I'm falling apart." Fine is fine. Fine is dandy. Okay and fine are pretty interchangeable, in my opinion. No I'm not lying when I say fine, there is nothing wrong with fine (especially think about other cultures and languages, just because you think something about a word think about how much it doesn't translate to those other cultures and languages; that should make you think twice), and you don't need to ask twice.

If I'm not doing "great," whatever that even means, I don't want to lie, but I also don't want to stop and spill my whole life story of why that is. That would be a conscious choice- to friends. And, I don't want to say anything that would worry anyone, you know? Like I'm handling it.

Maybe the only problem here is me. But I swear other people have talked about this question too.

Is it too invasive?