How others vs. you view you

There are a couple of things that have led me to think about this topic and write this blog post.

• One, right now, I'm in interegr 170, an Intro to Engineering class. We have to basically work on a team and complete an engineering project for a client.

  • In this class, we had to give feedback on each team member, and then ourselves (that was pretty weird and interesting, I thought). And then write a REFLECTION about the discrepancies, basically. Whoever created that assignment, it's like these people were feeding into my blog post; they knew what I liked to write about and what I should write about and excite all of y'all with.

  • The thing is, it's common to reflect on team members, I feel like, in a group project. Even that might be a little weird to other people.

  • But at the very least, I feel like we have all worked on teams where we didn't like it, whatever it was, the project itself, having to work with other people, having to TALK to other people, or a specific team member (hopefully not :(. And we often express this contempt to others. Many people admit and say that they don't like working on a team; that they'd rather do the entire project themselves.

  • But this introspection? That was weird. I mean, I'm a person who reflects on myself, for growth, and even I thought this particular assignment was an odd ask of whoever created it. And the reflection? Again...it's like they knew about this blog. Kind-of creepy. Anyway...

• I was also talking to a friend today, and somehow we got onto the topic of how one views oneself and how others view a person. And of course, the discrepancies between these two.

Through the class, through that reflection, and through talking to my friend, I have come to realize that there are serious discrepancies between these two.

And there's a couple of different ways of thinking about this or sides to the story.

The Story: The Person

1. ...could be insecure. And therefore view themself worse as an outside person/viewer.

2. ...could really want to be something, try hard, and want to come across as that thing or adjective. It doesn't even necessarily have to be for other people, but for themselves; for their own value as a person; who they want to be.

   1. But it could not come across that way.

   2. Or and it could actually come across.

3. ...could be extremely misinterpreted. I don't know the further I get into life the more it just seems ALLL miscommunication.