Really? But is it feminism, or just independence, being my own person?

In a way, this is a continuation of my latest blog post, "Alone = better." Because the topic of my hate for romance continues here.

1. So many romantic things give me the ick. A boy wanting to hold the door? Wanting to carry my bag?

   1. It makes me feel weak and pathetic? I can do those things? I have always done those things? Why do you need to do them for me? Why do you need to imply that you need to do those things for me, that I can't do them, that you need to take care of me? It kind-of makes me mad. All my life I go through doing these things and all of a sudden a boy wants to do them for me.

      1. A friend brought to my attention though, that this feeling will only arise if it's a boy you don't like.

         1. I simultaneously agree and disagree. Yes it's true, it's much more "romantic" if you like the person, but I do think an aspect of those feelings, thoughts, and that speel always stays true.

2. Men as the "provider" in the family. To me, it's a little shocking the "gold digger" idea popularity and genuine truth. The appeal of it. Nah, as long as I work hard, I don't need a provider. I am the provider. I can provide for myself and my family. And I would have no problem if I was earning more money than my husband, if I ever have one. I mean, my plan is to be a doctor, so....

   1. In fact, I might even like that and think it a little funny, because think of the way it would punch history in the face..!

3. "House-wife." It's not that I'm not a clean person. It's not that I don't clean; it's not that I don't like cleaning. It's not that I don't want to learn how to cook; and cook well. And cook meals for kids, if that were the case. In fact I would want to clean, because I would want the house clean in my way, clean the way I like that. And same for the meals. To control the delicious meals, make sure they're healthy, and just be that motherly figure those kids would deserve. But it's about that historic oppression, expectation, and diminishment of women to housewives that I have a problem with. They are so much more than that, and can do so much more (and better, too). But what can I say, just turn it around to a compliment: women just do do many, many things better than men (seriously, in my psychology textbook they just kept checking off all these things that women do better than men, and rarely were there things the other way around, like two things that men do better), and two of those are cleaning (with pretty much no exceptions), and cooking (with exceptions, but probably because they're just picky and want their food).

4. Also it makes me mad that men take advantage of women just becuase they're physically stronger. Like seriously what the fuck. That's so messed up, and yet that's like half our history, men and women, together, I swear. JusT BeCAuse You'Re sTr0ngeR d0Esn'T mEAn yoU UsE iT aGaINsT... so easy for humans to mess up.