WHO I AM (Self Image???) - and how you shouldn't get caught up being somebody you don't want to be.

Hello! Welcome to my blog! If you want a backstory, it started off as a private website where I share my life updates with my friends, now it is a public website anyone can access. It's kind-of like an archive of my thoughts at this point. It is not really life updates anymore, because those come and go, aren't interesting, and are also not stuff you want random strangers to know (sorry) or what they would even care about! Instead, my blog is now theories, opinions, and points of discussion. I think this is going to be interesting for you...I hope...and my goal really is not just to write blog posts...but to actually have discussions about what I write as well. Get feedback.

My first topic is something close to heart to all of us. That weird thing called Self Image, that honestly, a lot of you probably don't even know about. I say this because you probably will know what I'm talking about ONCE I start talking about it, but probably not off the bat because it is not something that is talked about. At least...that was all the case for me. I couldn't find much research about it either.

Self image is that image you have in your head...of yourself, yourself both physical aspects and personality aspects. It can ALSO be things that you WANT to be personality wise. It is basically your perception of yourself. It is a mental image. It is who you think you are and who you want to be. The problem with this image is that you can get stuck in old mindsets you don't even WANT anymore. You can get stuck with insecurities you once had, that you don't even have anymore. I would like to share now my theories about Self Image, and definitely let me know what YOU think!

Who you think you are and the relationship you have with yourself will entirely determine if your Self Image is a horrid thing and makes you depressed or if it makes you happy and content with life. So if you think of yourself negatively...naturally, you won't have a good relationship with yourself and honestly, I don't think you will be too happy. It really does make a huge difference once you figure this out. So if you think of yourself as shy...even if you don't think you are shy anymore...your mind will still think of yourself as shy and this can make a negative impact on your mental health. Now you may be confused right now, because I just said, "if you think of yourself as shy even if you don't think you are shy anymore." I am aware that that makes no sense. What I mean is, even if you don't think you are shy anymore, you think you changed, or else you just don't WANT to think of yourself as shy anymore, your Self Image could still be in "shy mode" so to speak. What you need to do is look inside every once in a while and make sure you Self Image is who you actually even want to be? Is it accurate? Or is it stuck in some image of yourself from years ago?

If you think what I'm saying doesn't matter...the "shy" example I just gave can affect you negatively in behavior. What you think you are...you will behave that way.

You think you are a pianist? It is way easier to practice piano.

You think you are an artist? It is way easier to make an art piece.

You think you're not a pianist? Um, are you ever going to practice piano? Probably not.

Even if you say to other people you are a pianist, well now you are holding yourself accountable. Because that's what you say, what you think, and what other people think, it is so much easier to keep yourself accountable and perform those actions because...you're saying that...you're thinking that! The last step is ACTING like that. At that point you ARE that.

Now hang in there, because I have a lot more to say about this whole topic and in fact I could probably write a book (I'm kind-of joking).

So thus far, what I want you to take away is that your Self Image needs to align with you actually are and more importantly, who you want to be. I mean it when I say it is totally in your control.

An important understanding of Self Image is that it does change. It changes because we change, all the time. And it's not going to stay the time. I used to think that's a bad thing. "Ooh it's so unstable I hate that." Well, if you're changing, why wouldn't it change too? In fact THAT'S what sounds like a bad thing. That it wouldn't change when you did...because well...think of the shy example. Now that I gave a "personality type" example it will be easier to understand the physical side of it too. If you cut your hair...are you still imagining yourself with long hair? No, that's in the past. It just wouldn't make any sense, would it! So why would you be thinking things of yourself that you also don't want to be true, personality wise! The change is in your power.

Not dwelling on the past is important when it comes to Self Image. I had this problem where I had different "personas" is the best way I could describe it. Different "me's" that I could choose from? But really at the end of the day it was old Self Images that just weren't accurate anymore. And as far the personality aspects, I just needed to fix these Self Images and combine them and really at the end of the day, it's not multiple, its one Self Image. Because there is only one of you. So it was basically a misconception of mine. At the end of the day, there's no such thing as old Self Images, there is ALWAYS only one, the one of today. You can genuinely choose who you want to stay and be everyday. You can stay the same person...or you can improve, on whatever needs improving. Insecurities can also twist your images in ways you don't even realize. But you'll know what I mean, I obviously can't predict what YOU will run into. You just have to...be aware of this all.

I am NOT saying be a different person everyday, that's exactly what not to do. No, be yourself, stay true to yourself. You are one person, you just get to decide what to do and how to change.

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