Being loved for who you are

A good thing I think to forget is what it's like to be loved for who you are.

One thing is being loved, but being loved for who you are is separate, and shouldn't be undervalued.

Something that I saw recently reminded me of that.

Not being yourself is not only bad to yourself, because you are not taking the time to discover yourself and develop and like who you were meant to be (which is a different character for everyone, and a shame you are not letting that person add to the world), but it is even unfair to other people. And not just in the sense of "you're not letting that person be added to the world." By not being yourself, you will attract the wrong people. Which is not good for you, or for them. And they will just have the completely wrong idea of who you are. The truth has a way of coming out, and when it does, emotions can get hurt.

What I watched that made me think of this is a movie that has been on my Netflix list for a while now. I was looking for something to watch and it was recommended to me. I saw that I started it. I guess I for whatever reason couldn't or didn't want to finish it (I think I was only about 27 minutes in or so) but kept it in my list. I knew I still wanted to watch it.

The premise of the movie (27 Dresses) is of a girl who is "always a bridesmaid, never a bride." She is the bridesmaid or maid of honor of over a dozen of wedding, and a life-saver for all the brides. She does everything for the wedding. Each weekend weddings or wedding-related affairs (which when you think about it, there are a lot of) are filling her agenda. You'd think that was her job, but no, it is only a side "job", she has an actual job working in the office. I was no doubt attracted to this movie because of the wedding theme and my own obsession with weddings. Maybe also a little to a familiar actress (Jane) who is played by Katherine Heigl.

Because I was already minutes again when I clicked on it again, I had to piece together what had happened. And now it's funny and ironic because I don't remember how (it could've been a year ago that I first started this movie, for all I know. Likely with how school makes me so busy and time fly) but her (Jane's) sister (Tess) comes to visit. Like I mentioned, very important detail earlier, Jane works in the office. She falls in love with her boss (George). But guess who meets her boss and guess who her boss meets? The answer to both is Tess. Tess and the boss fall in love; or do they?

That's an interesting point, is it possible to fall in love when you don't even know the person? Tess decides to be someone else so that George will love her. Isn't that ironic? "Someone worthy of his love."

I mean, I think the common opinion is that you can't love someone you don't know. That doesn't even make sense. To love, is to know. To know, is to love. How can you love somebody you don't know?

This girl's logic makes no sense. But she isn't exactly made out to be the brightest character anyway. Anyway that's all I'll say about the movie in case anyone wants to watch.

And poor Jane has to watch it all. She even has to plan the wedding to the man she is in love with for years.

It made me realize, actually being loved for who you are, is a beautiful thing that shouldn't be undervalued. Because true love is with true knowing.

It is a great feeling, when you know that you are being who you are, just by nature, coupled with who you want to be (because it is not just who you are "by birth" but the person you decide to be, by changes and growth, decisions and actions, etc) other people love too (and hopefully you do too).

By being yourself, you attract the right people.

Perhaps the greatest way to tell a lot about someone is simply then, by their friends. I guess a check to all of us could be to stop and think "do we love our friends"? Are these great people that accurately represent who we want to be? Personally I love my friends and I couldn't be more grateful or be more happy with the friends that I have. So that's a sign you're doing something right, and a great joy in life. In lots of way, these people closest to us will tell us something about ourselves (or who we are or get along with) something we have in common or a representation of something about us or who are trying to become (that's what I think it is sometimes, we haven't become that but we are trying to and people just sense that and still befriend us).